An Open Letter to Resilience
You are human. All of my clients are human as well and when the pressure is on, they tell me it can feel overwhelming. I happen to be human too, so I get it. Some of my clients perform in front of thousands of people, others manage multiple millions of other people's money and we talk about their fear of making the wrong move. Or their fear of not bringing in a big enough crowd or not exceeding their previous accomplishment.
When your external identity is wrapped up in winning, bringing home the six-figure bonus, or selling out the venue; it can consume and confuse your sense of self. Not being grounded in our sense of self is precisely what impacts our mental health. Who are you? Why did you start to engage in this passion? These are the questions that start to become foggy when going for the gold starts to be a primary guiding force. I experience it as well, hoping for client's to leave every session feeling a little bit better. When the pressure is on we have to remind ourselves that we are human. We all put our pants on in a similar way. Whether it's feeling stuck, disconnected, disenchanted, afraid of a loss of acceptance or no longer feeling loved; we all feel similarly when we are in emotional pain.
You get to validate what is going on in your internal world. We get to validate ourselves and have compassion for our humanity. Then, return to who you remember yourself to be. Reconnect with how come you love what you do, remind yourself about the power of your passion. Go back to your hunger and determination to always do your best. This is what I teach my clients and what I practice for myself.
Everything else? Leave it alone. Let it rest. Just be yourself and do what you know how to do. Let your light shine from within.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” - Maya Angelou